Giving Up Is Never An Option

Life! It is a series of events, good or bad, in your favor or against you some times too. But what would life be if it was predictable? 

People in today’s time are going through anything and everything, and in their own perspective life is hard! Dealing with it is extremely tiring, the next morning haunts them! To the point that they become insomniac in the anxiety of what happens tomorrow, and this is certainly not an exaggeration. People are going through things- anxiety, depression and what not! But the question is, what is the reason? What is their thought process to be going through something like this? What is the person seeing the other person struggling supposed to do? Is he supposed to comfort him? Just let him be? Or try to make him understand that whatever he is feeling is nothing but a phase and it will pass?

Honestly the last thing a person needs to be and wants to be told is that whatever he is going through is just a phase. May be it is! But do we have to spell it out in front of him at a time where we do not even know whether he is in a position to understand our point of view? Not really.

So are we supposed to comfort him? In any way if you think that your words may encourage him to counter his situation in a better way, you should go ahead! But you have to tread carefully, for you do not know the impact of your words. Choosing the words very wisely can be hard, especially when the other person cannot define how is he feeling, what is he exactly going through.

 

While letting the person be may seem horrible, sometimes when you do not know how to tackle a situation being silent is a gift within itself, just sitting by the person as he takes his own time to pull himself or giving him the company of silence is not bad at all. Because in that way you are at least not making the things worst from bad. 

Understanding the reason a person might be facing anxiety, depression, insomnia or anything related to this might be a tough nut to crack. One of the many reasons a person is facing this may be him feeling lacking. He might feel that he is not where he should be at that period of time, there might have been goals that he is yet to achieve which according to him he should have achieved as of now. This fear of not catching up, not moving ahead and not going with the time might become scary to the point that it starts beating him mentally for not being efficient.

 

To understand that goals are kept only to set a pace is very important. Goals are kept as a mere checklist, to let it affect to a level that it starts affecting your peace of mind is a mistake one initially finds very minute. But it can turn into major. It is scary but it is a fact. Understanding the thought process of goal setting is extremely important. Goals should be realistic. Goals should be taken one at a time and should be given a time period which is possible. There might be hindrances, emergencies, health issues, family issues which may become barrier between your goals. Address them! You cannot run towards the finish line blindly, because no road is clean and clear which will just land you at your desired place magically when you open your eyes. The point is, set your goals and leave some possibilities of not being able to achieve at a time period you have planned out. 

Life doesn’t always turns out the way you plan.

And as harsh as these words are, face them for your own sanity.

Fear of what ifs is another reason one might feel bothered about, and yes to the point that it becomes a reason of anxiety. It is alright if it is once in a while, it is not if it turns into a habit! You have to learn to take one day at a time. Try as hard as you need, push yourself but think only about now! Distract yourself with the things which calms you, try new things and find out if you do not know what works. But learn to take one day at a time. There is no other way to deal with the fear of unknown other than to not think about it. Take deep breathes, sit with people, sit in nature, travel! Change of space works like magic for people, you have got to find what works the best for you if you want to fight for yourself.

Family issues, work issues may be hard to deal with. But there is not a problem in this world which does not have a solution. Everything can be dealt with. 

The keys to deal with are- patience, faith, dedication, hard work, stubbornness, and the fire which keeps on burning till you do not get where you want to be. It is easier said than done, I know. But it is not easy and you still need to be on it and do it! It is hard, it can be hardest but remember it is not impossible. You are going to find the light at the end of the tunnel, and you are going to be proud of it.